Real Love

Join Shelby M. Hill and me on this week’s “The Shelby Show” as we interview The Dynamic Diva Dr. Elon Bomani a International Transformational Leader and Top Selling author. To listen  to “The Shelby Show” CLICK HERE

This extraordinary woman went from being a homeless mom to over a million net worth in a matter of 1.5 years starting with just $36.00 in her checking account and a dream.

Most recently, Dr. Elon Bomani has a cameo appearance in the newly released movie, “Louise Hay-You Can Heal Your Life” where she shares her prosperity secrets. Elon Bomani was featured on Live w/Montel Williams, The Michael Baisden radio show, Jet and Essence Magazine, just to name a few.

Dr. Elon Bomani is owner and founder of Papyrus Publishing, an innovative publishing company dedicated to writing books, CD, DVD, creating e-commerce website and services that will educate, empower and inspire individuals to fulfill their greatest dreams beyond their imagination. In addition to owning Papyrus Publishing, Dr. Elon Bomani is CEO and Founder of Good Credit Consultants LLC., a Credit Resolutions firm and The Loan Modification Consultants, a foreclosure mediation company. Her most recently business venture is the creation of an innovative holistic, natural living e-business for women The Dynamic Diva. Her goal is to inspire women to become more healthy, wealthy, and wise.

Come join us Tuesday March 9 at 4 pm PST / 7 pm EST to hear Dr. Elon Bomani share her secrets.

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Often when we’ve been hurt in the past or if we’ve experienced rejection we become insecure, we worry, and we self-reject. Next time you find yourself thinking, “oh he probably won’t want to go out with me anyway!” or “what am I thinking she is too good of a person to want to date me” stop and take a deep breath.  Recognize that under your self-rejection there is an old fear that hasn’t fully expressed itself.

Everyone has been rejected or has fears of rejection – you are not alone! To stop self-rejection, start a loving relationship with yourself.

There are different ways to be in loving relationship with yourself.

One way that I, and many of my clients, have found helpful is to start by noticing what messages are playing over and over in our heads. In many Buddhist traditions and in Psychology, the wandering, unsettled and restless mind is referred to as “monkey mind”. Pay attention to the messages you are telling yourself. They may be negative messages such as, “I’m not good enough. I’m never going to be in a loving relationship. I can’t have what I truly want.”

Or, they may be positive messages such as, “I live in loving relationship all the time. I enjoy and celebrate my life that is filled with love and joy.”

If you notice that the majority of your “monkey mind” thoughts are preoccupied with self-rejection, put yourself on a “negative thoughts diet.”

You have to be the catalyst behind changing these thought patterns. Your mind is not going to stop these messages that have been playing for years without your conscious intervention. You have to replace these negative messages with new positive ones that you get to create. They can be any message you want them to be. Be creative. Allow yourself to be positive.

One way you can do this is to take the negative message and turn it into a positive one. For example, “I’m not good enough” can be transformed into the positive message “I am whole and complete.”

Always make sure that your new message is in the present tense, so that you can start embodying your new message right away. Now add a verb that evokes positive feelings such as “celebrate” “savior” “enjoy” “delight” in front of your sentence. For example “I celebrate myself for being whole and complete.”

You can have one new positive message that you say to yourself every time you catch yourself falling back into the old negative “monkey mind” thought patterns. Or you can create a whole list of positive new messages and then choose a different one every time you catch yourself in the old ”monkey mind” pattern.

A client of mine wrote her new positive messages on sticky notes and posted them all over her house and on her car’s dashboard, so that she had constant reminders of the new message that she was programming into her being.

Remember Every Relationship Starts with You. Ask yourself “What relationship do I want to create with myself and others?”

So next time you find yourself caught in your self-rejection talk – recall one of your new positive messages, say it a few times to yourself to replace the negative one. Take a deep breath and then decide if you want to approach someone or introduce yourself to someone new.

Many of you mentioned that you would have enjoyed attending last week’s “Find Love Now” call, but you couldn’t.

So I’ve decided to offer it again. Tomorrow, Thursday March 4 at 5 pm PST/ 8 pm EST. To register CLICK HERE

Are you done being single?

Ready to attract your live partner and enjoy loving, authentic, passionate relationship?

Then Join me for this call, where I will talk about:

• How to overcome old Relationship Patterns that might be blocking you from attracting your Life Partner
• How to clear Fear & Worry
• How to not let old stories get in the way of True Love
• How I overcame some of the same issues you are facing now with some practical tools and attracted a partner within 6 months.

Join me on tomorrow’s call Thursday March 4 at 5 pm PST/ 8 pm EST Register by CLICKING HERE

In this month’s Pay It Forward post I’d like to highlight the wonderful charity organization Quiet Way,   which was co-founded by my friend Crystal Miller and her family.

In Our Own Quiet Way (Quiet Way), is a global non-profit organization dedicated to helping impoverished or underdeveloped regions around the world develop practical, long-term solutions.

Quiet Way accomplishes its mission by investigating and responding to the greatest needs of suffering communities, as defined by these communities, and then organizing a cooperative effort with other non-profit organizations, businesses, government  and community groups.

Their support flows into the communities through scholarships, co-op farms, medical support, and much more.

If you’d like to find out more about Quiet Way and how you can support their efforts, please CLICK HERE

If you have an organization you support I invite you to share those with me. I love hearing about new organizations that make a difference in the world. You can respond to this post or you can connect with me on Facebook.

Come join Shelby Hill and me this Tuesday, March 2 at 4 pm PST (5 pm MST, 6 pm CST, 7 pm EST) as we interview Catrice M. Jackson author of Delicious; The Savvy Woman’s Guide to Living a Sweet, Sassy & Satisfied Life”

Join us as we talk with Catrice about how you can:

• Discover and reveal your juicy goodness and create your unique recipe for living a delicious life.
• Catapult your life with 25 power questions to answer in creating a delicious and savvy life
• Enhance your “soul scent” through learning how to become a radiant, charismatic and attractively savvy woman.
• Create deliciously salivating moment by learning how to make ‘em say “Wow!! Who’s that?” when you enter a room.
• Learn how to live life fabulously and fearlessly out loud by embracing the delicious woman within and using the 10 Right Now Actions for Delicious Living.

Join us for a Delicious & Fun show on “The Shelby Show” on Tuesday March 2 at 4 pm PST / 7 pm ES

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Do you ever have the feeling like you are going, going, going – having to do a million things at work and in your personal life? I can imagine that sometimes you wish there were more hours in the day to get everything done!

Well sometimes we can get so caught up in giving to others, taking care of others and doing the million things we have to do that we forget to take care of ourselves.

At times we take it so far that we get sick only to have a little bit of a break. I know being sick is not really a break, however, it will force you to slow down.

So how about taking a break before you get sick or are forced to slow down. You might think that it’s counter-intuitive to take a break when you have so many things to do. However, taking a break is going to help you be more productive in the long run.

I’m participating in a virtual Women’s Success Retreat all day tomorrow. I’m looking forward to turning off the computer and the phone for an entire day and focus on myself. I’ll spend time meditating, doing yoga, engaging in some creative artwork, and pampering myself in the comfort of my own home.  To find out more about virtual retreats lead by Life Coach Karen McMillan Click Here.

Retreats are wonderful ways to nurture yourself and if you can take a half a day or an entire day even better.

Here are some other ways that you can nurture yourself:

• Take a nice hot bath. Turn down the ringer on your phone, turn on some nice music, light a candle and soak in the tub.
• Take a nap in the middle of the day. Even a 5 min. power nap can have you feel refreshed and rejuvenated
• Go out into nature and enjoy a walk on the beach, in the woods or in your local park
• If you can’t go out into nature – take a 5 min break in the morning and afternoon and imagine being out in nature on your favorite beach, in the forest, park or in the mountains.
• Spend an afternoon in bed with your favorite book and music
• Treat yourself to a massage
• Turn off the TV for one evening and cook yourself a delicious meal or take yourself out for dinner

To be honest it doesn’t matter how you nurture yourself, important is that you feel good; you get a chance to rest and rejuvenate. You’ll notice a huge difference when you go back into the “word” to take care of all the things you have to do. You’ll notice that you have more energy if you take care of yourself on a regular basis and allow yourself to take breaks.

I’d love to hear how you are taking care of yourself and invite you to share about your own mini retreats and ways you rejuvenate.

Relationship Breakthrough! The Proven System

for Finding Your Life Partner

Register below for the exclusive Find Love Now call

On the call I’ll talk about:

* How to clear Fear & Worry

• How to overcome Old Relationship Patterns
• How to use the power of Commitment to attract Love Now
• Plus: We’ll have plenty of time for Your unique questions

Register for the Free Call on

Thursday, February 25 at 6 p.m. PST

(7 pm MST, 8 pm CST, 9 pm EST)

Often when we feel stuck it is as if we are frozen, can’t move; yet at the same time our mind is racing at high speed. We have the sense that we can think ourselves out of our current situation or out of the current conflict. The brain as beautiful and powerful as it is – can’t do it all on its own.

This is where wonder, movement and breath come in handy.

The other day, during a session with a client I noticed her a few times saying, “I feel stuck, I don’t know what to do” – to me this was a clear indicator that she was trying to figure her way out of her situation, yet it seemed like she was going in circles.

I invited her to wonder.  Gay & Katie Hendricks, Chris Lucerene and Gayle Knight Colman in their book Imagination Made Real write, “Wondering is about being curious. It is about “not knowing” and being in an open state of anticipation to discover something new. Wondering is a whole BodyMind experience – not just a cognitive act. Wonder begins when you make the sound “hmmmmm….” This sound vibrates in your throat and soothes your cognitive mind allowing you to shift to genuine curiosity” (page 20).

I invited my client to take a deep breath and to start wondering. She started by making the “hmmmmm….” sound a few times. Allowing her cognitive brain to be calmed. Then I instructed her to add a wonder question following her “hmmm…” sound. Hendricks, Lucerene and Knight Colman write “The hmmm…ing coupled with a question creates the curious space for something new to occur: New insight, new creative ideas, new inspiration, and new growth” (p. 20).

I invited my client to start with the sentence “Hmm…. I wonder what wants to happen next?”. She said the statement a few times out loud. At first she started laughing nervously and I encouraged her to make the laughing bigger. Then she tuned in with the question again “Hmmmm… I wonder what wants to happen next?”. She noticed feeling sad and tears stared rolling down her checks. Again I invited her to stay with those feelings and allow them. She did. Then she wondered again “Hmm… I wonder what wants to happen next?” This time she shared what she really wanted in a partner and how she wanted her relationship to be. We talked about that for a while and then I invited her to make some concrete action steps in regards to attracting the relationship she wants in her life.

Wondering allows us to move beyond trying to cognitively figure out a solution to a problem. It allows us to open to any feelings that want to be expressed, feel the feelings and then move into seeing a new perspective and with it new solutions.

I invite you right now to try it out for yourself.  Wonder for a moment. “Hmmm…..”. Now add a wonder question.  Create genuine space for something new to occur.

For example if you are feeling stuck in a recycled relationship issue with your partner a wonder question could be “hmmm…. I wonder how we can communicate in a loving way so that both of us can be heard?”

Or if you are single and you feel stuck not sure how to attract a partner a wonder question can be “hmmmm….. I wonder how I can attract a loving, conscious partner?”

It is important to become curious, your answer might not be crystal clear immediately, so continue wondering and allow the answers to come to you.

Where do you think Einstein would be if he hadn’t been curious when he came up with his “E=MC²” equation? According to the Health Resources website “Einstein wasn’t as big a genius as most people think. He did have a curious mind, however, and he wasn’t afraid to think differently than other people around him believed”.

I’d enjoy hearing your wonder questions and invite you to share below.

Tap into your Intuition and Improve your Life!

Join my interview with New York Times Bestselling author Dr. Judith Orloff on Wednesday, February 24 at 1 p.m. PST (2 pm MST, 3 pm CST, 4 pm EST) Register below!

We are keepers of an innate intuitive intelligence so powerful that it can tell us how to heal. Intuition is a great source of wisdom that everyone can tap into. The magic comes in awakening it and trusting its guidance in our lives. Judith Orloff MD, a psychiatrist and intuitive, passionately believes that the future of medicine lies in using intuition to access deeper insight and wellness. She offers techniques to tap into it to improve your decisions, health, and life.

During the Interview we will explore:

• How to identify different forms of intuition
• How to listen to your body
• How to recognize the difference between fear and intuition
• How dreams relate to intuition and how to interpret dreams
• How to tap into intuition to improve your health & life
• What energy vampires are and how to combat them

Follow your intuition – join Free conversation with Dr. Orloff on Wednesday, February 24 at 1 pm PST (2 pm MST, 3 pm CST, 4 pm EST)

Earlier today I sent out my Valentine’s newsletter to everyone in my community – a few hundred people. Less than 5 minutes after I hit the send button, a friend responded and in a loving way pointed out several spelling mistakes in my e-mail

I immediately noticed a pit in my stomach, my face flushing, and the thought “Oh no, how could I!” My “Perfectionist Persona” was ready to criticize me with full force. The thought “Maybe I could just ignore my friend’s e-mail and my feelings” even crossed my mind.

Thankfully at that moment I had enough clarity to take a deep breath, stand up, and allow my body to shake to match the feeling of fear I was experiencing.

I can imagine in one way or another you can relate to my experience. I’m sure you’ve been in the situation where you made a mistake and quickly responded by judging or criticizing yourself. The saying “We are our worst critic” – rings true in this moment. Sometimes our inner judging goes so far that we even stop expressing ourselves authentically or we stop doing what we are passionate about.

Before you give up your vibrant beautiful expression or put an end to your creative endeavor I’d like to offer you some new ways to move through mistakes, embarrassment and big feelings.

1 Match your feelings:

Often when we feel a rush of feelings come on we try to suppress them. I invite you in that moment to take a deep breath, stand up, and match the sensations you feel in your body.

For example if you feel a fluttering in your stomach – let your whole body shake

I’ve you feel a clenching in your shoulders and jaw – tense your whole body and then release

If you feel a wave of sadness and grief – let the tears flow

By giving our feelings and body sensation an outlet and expression the energy can move through us and doesn’t get stuck.

2. Express your feelings creatively:

If you enjoy painting take out some paint and put your feelings on paper.

If you enjoy writing put your feelings and body sensations in words.

If you don’t feel creative in that moment, take a pen, a piece of paper and with your left hand scribble – allowing yourself to express your feelings.

Also finger paints are not just for kids – they are a great way to express your feelings in a fun and safe way.

3. Make a small shift and then another:

Sometimes when we feel overwhelmed, embarrassed or afraid we freeze. It is as if we can’t move or breathe.

In that moment pause and notice if there is even the slightest movement happening in your body. Maybe you can move one of your fingers – go ahead and move your finger. Then allow another part of your body to move. Very gently and lovingly allow each movement to be followed by another movement.

Remember to appreciate yourself after you’ve expressed or matched your feelings. By seeing every interaction with others and ourselves as an opportunity to learn we start to see the people in our life as our allies.

I would love to hear how you are expressing, matching and shifting when you encounter feelings and invite you to post below.